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Man Dates Are The New Pink

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Cour Marly is going to blog about man dates, and I’d just linkorama’ed it. Which reminded me that I just had a man date myself on Fri night and something interesting happened.

It was a Friday night. Me and my pal had just had a boy’s night out. Because we forgot to go for dinner before gallavanting, the hunger was upon us and we just had to have food. So we hopped into a cab and asked to be brought to the nearest Swensen’s.

While we were queueing up for a table outside Swensens, we had a little chat.

I hate Swensen’s. Why are we here

Dude, don’t say that – Swensens has a special place in my heart

What the f87k does that mean?

When I was a kid, I only got to eat at Swensen’s on special occasions. Like when I got good results for my exams.

Ohhh… for me it’s Pizza Hut. I only got to eat there when I did well in my exams.

The waitress who was watching the queue starting smiling at us and then burst into laughter. I told my pal “Gee asshat, now she must think we’re gay with all that Wonder Years remininscing crap we just said”.

Anyway we got a table and ordered our dinner. When we were done, we had another ‘difficult’ episode.

Dude, the ice-cream looks excellent

Yeah, do you want ice-cream?

Hell yes, but I’m stuffed

Me too

Do you think we could like share an ice-cream

** pregnant pause **

How do you think it would look to all these people here if we shared an ice-cream?

** pregnant pause **

It would look gay

We would look gay

Christ…

So we didn’t get to eat any ice-cream that night although we had a lot of other sweeties later that night (but that’s another story). I guess our homophobic tendencies cause us alot of inconvenience. Men can no longer go out in a pair and not feel uncomfortable. People are unable assume that they are just 2 pals, and are not into that greek love shite.

Anybody else been on a difficult man date lately?

the swensens picture above look like the outlet at northpoint

this is the Swensen’s at the end of the universe

i did have one today, we were going to this place where it was having a 50% on everything. it was a sunny day and we decided to go there to check the thermals out.

both of us were trying thermals for each other cause both of us were the same built, and commenting whether its too tight or too loose when either of us came out of the changing room.

people must have thought we were 2 lonely asian gays cold on a lonely winter night down under

Most of the time, it’s ourselves that find it funny and think too much.

of course. actually, difficult only for me. my friend’s the kind who doesn’t give a shite. thankfully.

I think it’s “safer” for platonic friends to hang out these days as compared to male friends. And it is easier to share ice cream with a female friends without anyone giving you weird looks. I mean worse case scenario is to have people asking if you peeps are a couple, you simply laugh it off and say they’re mistaken. My best friends are the opposicte genders, and this has proved to be much easier most of the times. Of course, there are times when I need to grunt, I head out to the local watering hole with a mate is always a safe bet.

i have one almost every (other) weekend with a buddy.

we used to hang out with my cousins and sis – until we gradually became the butt of their jokes for hanging out together so often.

you can imagine our faces everytime they cracked their jokes.

-_-

we’re still hanging out – two guys on man dates weekly or so.

andrian > yes, I would have thought you were gay if I were in listening range

darren > oh no dude, gayspotting is a new sport here in Singapore thanks to balaji

kureshii > heh so you’re like me then

SC > i agree 100%

gecko > I feel your pain, brudder… I do

We must be comfortable in our own sexuality. Lately, I have been having er, boys’ nights out, with Miyagi and Caleb too.

Meeting up and chatting with male buddies lowers the blood pressure and gives a general feeling of wellness. Guys will live longer if we did this more often (unless these meetups are done in Geylang, for other less savoury reasons, then in thos cases, you die sooner).

Swenson’s was also a childhood treat for us. Heck, A&W and KFC was a royal treat. In fact, my favourite place as a child was Magnolia Diary Bar (torn down liao). If you remember that place, you’re as old as I am.

Don’t have man date but Ooo… I remember A&W’s onion rings. Nobody does onion rings anymore.

muahaha… i never knew its a problem among guys till you highlighted it. i don’t think my and my girlfriends would bother laughing or staring at 2 men sharing an ice-cream la. girls can, why guys cannot lei? talking about ice-creams reminds me of the swenson’s firehouse we just shared on saturday. oishiii… =9

During my time it was a treat going to Jack’s Place. Wear nicer abit and your friends will ask you “going jack’s place r?”

going out and enjoying stuff with a buddy is one of life’s best things. They know what you’re saying, can relate to you and your shit, and all this over some great food and drinks. therapeutic la. hell i’ll share a nice cake, when i just wanna have a bite, with a male friend anytime. i mean it’s nice cake lor!

okay — sharing icecream really is kinda ..gay. But normally man-dates are nothing to worry about at all. Homophobic behaviours are ruining your life if you’re paranoid about all the things that might make you look gay.

I am eh? That’s news to me…

Haha, I agree. Girls can go out in pairs and share food and no one would say anything. If I see guys sharing food, I would be questioning about their sexuality too.

I think the question why guys who share food will raise a few eyebrows is because guys are seen as bigger eaters so it wouldn’t have make much sense to people that they cannot finish a serving all by themselves.

But as for girls, they can get away with sharing one scope of ice-cream because people would just be assuming that they are on a diet.

I think it depends on the people in question.. there are buddies I feel totally un-gay with, yet when I’m out with my (blood) brother, who’s tall, tan, hamsom, I feel a little self-conscious.. haha..

Was just at Ritz Carlton on Sat night, and there were these 2 clean-cut 25 year old guys.. they looked like hetero man, but with gayism being so popular these days, they really warranted a 2nd and 3rd look to see if 1 was caressing the other’s ear..