Cowboy Caleb the liberal arts, grown-up stuff & random mischief

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I just had a big fight with my gf - the latest in a series of many spectacular arguments.

What sparked off this fight was I got pissed that she didnt even bother to call and check on me despite knowing that I was on sick leave today because she was too busy with work. So when I asked about this, she accused me of picking a fight with her which was bad because she’s under a lot of preassure at work. Also she says I’m a dick because I didn’t call and ask about her - it should have been obvious to me (according to her) that she was also sick because of her hoarse voice. Bla Bla Bla.

When a man is sick, he says it out loud. When a woman is sick, she expects the man to possess psychic powers.

Anyway it all boils down to the fact that I think she’s a workaholic who forgets everything once she’s in the office. She tells me the day I can give her 5k a month, she’ll stay at home and do housework. Is this how a healthy relationship is supposed to work?

I really hate and love this woman at the same time.

Why the hell am I sticking on, trying to make things work?

Probably because I have invested too much time and money into this relationship.

Also, maybe I cannot imagine my routines changing to disinclude her from my life in the future.

Crap, time to sleep. This is really bugging me. I’m sure all of you will have better suggestions.

And yet another question - what is your gf working ?
Sorry but I don’t have any good advice. Recently you said we should not tell you “break up with her” as an adivce, so I have nothing to say lol.
Also, you are way ahead of me in terms of knowledge about leading actual relationships with somebody of the opposite sex. I always break up at the first signs of trouble cause I don’t have the urge for extra stress..I guess that is my mistake.

she’s an engineer. Next time, no more engineers. Also, lawyers, PR and tattoo artists are out.

i don’t think 5k is enough to make me stay at home to do housework. I demand at least 10k. Mm..the thought of staying at home doing nothing is actually scary. Eeks.

Tattoo artists ? Wow..a whole new side on the Calebian. As for me : no more rockers, actors and jobless people. I once almost got together with a helicopterpilot but I screwed it up..still ripping my hair out about it. He was a bit too straight but a good guy. aargghh !!

When we are sick, we all wants to be taken care off, even if eveyone thinks that you can take care of yourself.

Also when we are sick, we don’t really care about anyone else, because our instinct is to take care of ourself first.

Caleb, I’m bothered that you equated a relationship as an investment. When you start to think that your gf is a commodity, then something drastic needs to be done… you need to cash in immediately, provided your gf is willing to give you 5k or not.

Idler > I think most men tend to think this way. That’s what the 50-50 clause in divorces tend to make men want to try harder to make the marriage work. It’s sad but true that our brains are wired this way.

Picolo, am I on the ball with this?

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